I know I’ve complained about unsolicited parenting advice before but here I go again. This time, I’m focusing on grandparents (you know, your OWN parents).
Grandparents are THE worst when it comes to unsolicited advice. Even worse? Many of them refuse to accept many of the changes that have happened in terms of standard child care. The hardest one to convince some grandparents of (most notably MY parents) is the idea that babies are put to sleep on their backs now. Annmarie has a bit of a bald spot on the back of her head:
My mom criticized me and said that I shouldn’t put her to sleep on her back. She and I have actually had the “back to sleep” conversation a number of times but she apparently refuses to believe me. I tried to explain how the American Pediatric Association recommends putting babies to sleep on their backs and that it is a HUGE thing now. She refuses to believe me. This time my dad was in on it and said that it was garbage as well. They both point out that Jeremy and I were put to sleep on our stomachs (as nearly all babies were when we were tiny tots) and that we both survived. I tried to point out that since starting the whole “back to sleep” campaign, the rate of SIDS has dropped. He just wouldn’t buy it. Apparently my dad got a medical degree when I wasn’t looking.
Jeremy and I have recently figured out that Annmarie doesn’t seem to like when other people hold her for extended periods of time. She’ll let someone hold her for a few minutes but then starts to cry. It seems, however, that grandparents don’t like this and refuse to think that perhaps their own grandchild just doesn’t want to be held by them. Instead I get bombarded with…
“You put her in uncomfortable clothes.”
“What did you do?!” (as though I somehow pinched her when a grandparent was holding her when they weren’t looking)
… and a slew of other just as annoying things. The one that is most irritating, however, is the “she is hungry” comment. A part of me dies a little whenever someone says this to me. And that part only dies because it is taking everything in my power not to scream. Look at my child – she is not going hungry, I can promise you that. The comment is even more annoying when the commenter knows I just finished nursing her.
The part about marriage that really sucks is dealing with 2 separate families around the holidays. I’m not sure how parents of infants get the shaft and are expected to cart their babies all around the state. Just thinking about upcoming holidays fills me with dread and it just enforces the idea that WE NEED TO MOVE!
Like her drool? She is drooling a TON lately. It isn’t very lady-like. :-)