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Mother’s Day, Schmother’s Day

I’ve dropped the ball twice already with my commitment to blog every Monday, Wednesday and Friday. I need to get back on track!

This is a late post on my first Mother’s Day.

To sum up the day… it was okay. I think I had high expectations for the day and it really just ended up being like any other day (except that I got flowers and breakfast made for me).

My high expectations stemmed from the following:

  • it was my FIRST Mother’s Day
  • it was my last day before I returned to work
  • Jeremy is known to be a really thoughtful gift-giver
  • I never got a push present (haha… I learned of these right around the time I gave birth and thought, “I have another reason to get a gift? Sweet!” I joked with Jeremy that he was supposed to buy me something and he pointed out that his gift to me was the baby. Um, really?)

I started the morning by nursing Annmarie. I then headed out for a quick run along the harbor. Jeremy made blueberry belgium waffles and then headed to the grocery store. I knew he was going to come back with flowers and a card. It is his M.O. And as one dad pointed out to me, “what did you expect? You can’t buy flowers ahead of time. Where would you hide them?”

While he was gone, I started the laundry, cleaned the bathroom and sweeped the kitchen, dining room and living room floors. Since becoming a mom and staying at home for 3 months – I became CRAZY about the crumbs, dust, dog hair, dirt, etc. that would somehow end up on my floor ALL THE TIME. I was sweeping up like crazy nearly every day.

Jeremy came back with a tulips, a bottle of wine and a card from him and another card from Annmarie. He then suggested that we just take a stroll around the Inner Harbor for a bit and then follow it with a long walk in the park with the dogs.

Since we were hitting up the Inner Harbor, I used a Barnes & Noble gift card to purchase:
Super Baby Food (since we can introduce Annie to solids soon)

Moo Baa La La La (since I was already getting sick of some of the books we have)

After B&N, we hit up Urban Outfitters because I had about $60 worth of gift cards to spend (from Christmas and my birthday). I purchased 2 tunics (with wide collars for nursing!) and a casual cotton dress. Nothing exciting or worth snapping a photo of.

Here’s me & Annie at the Inner Harbor. Since I’m still concerned about her getting a flat head, I try to carry her around as much as possible.
Mother's Day

We then went home to grab the dogs and headed to the nearby park. At this point, my back was aching from carrying my super cute but very heavy baby around.
(I love this picture because she’s trying to get the pacifier back in her mouth – it is probably mean that I didn’t just help her but instead snapped a photo)
Trying to get that pacifier

At this point, it was late afternoon. I kept waiting for Jeremy to present me with some sort of sentimental gift. And nothing. I would have even been a little happier had he cleaned the house!

Finally I told him that I was a little disappointed that I didn’t get anything. And yes, this probably makes me seem like a selfish jerk. But the day just felt so ordinary and I wanted something a bit extraordinary for my first Mother’s Day / last day of maternity leave.

He was helpful with washing all of the bottles and getting everything ready for our first trip to the daycare but I think this is something that ALL FATHERS SHOULD DO.

I’m sure I’m coming off as a wee bit selfish and bitchy – but I’m just being honest. So fellas – if the next Mother’s Day is going to be your lady’s FIRST, I highly suggest you make a big deal out of it.

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Back to the Grind

** Yarg!  WordPress ate most of this post so I had to reblog it… but I’m tired so this is a much shorter version than what I originally wrote.  Sorry! **

Today was my first day back at work.  While I was a bit weepy all morning – I didn’t bawl my eyes out like I thought I would.  I will say, however, that I got to work 45 minutes later than I intended.  Having a baby and getting everything prepped is extremely time consuming.

And while it felt weird to be back at work – it also almost felt like I wasn’t gone for 3 months.  The office still felt the same.

I surrounded myself with pictures of Annmarie.  I soaked in all of the compliments from co-workers telling me that I didn’t even look like I had a baby (I worked hard to get back to my prepregnancy size so I will happily accept these compliments!).  But the best part of the day was the receiving several text message updates from my daycare provider.

I received this one around 9am:

“She is so good, just fell asleep.  She was a little bit fussy and I had to change her diaper and give her a bottle.”

Then around 11am:

“Just woke up 1/2 hour ago… now just chill’n” followed by, “She is very good and didn’t cry when she woke up.”

Lastly around 1:15pm:

“She cried for the last 10 minutes and now she is asleep.”

As lame as this may be – these texts and pictures got me through the day.  I was happy that Annie seemed to be doing just fine.  I chuckled at the pictures (I love that she has the same sleeping pose and obviously had to change outfits at least once).

I’m just hoping that the guilt I feel will go away soon.

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Fitness Friday (2 days late)

I totally forgot to blog on Friday!  Whoops!  And normally I would’ve just skipped the blog post but I really did want to blog about something fitness related.

I had a lunch date with my dear friend, Angie (click that link – she has started blogging again!), on Tuesday so I wasn’t able to fit in a run.  Instead, I did the P90x Plyometrics dvd.  It is a great workout and I hadn’t done it in a VERY long time.  Needless to say, my legs were very sore for several days.

I managed to squeeze in a run on Thursday but didn’t time it very well.  I had to wait until Jeremy got home (he took a half day at work so he could study for his final).  I had running around lunchtime because I’m always STARVING so I tried to time some decent snacks appropriately.  I definitely failed at that because I spent the majority of the run wanting to vomit.  I managed to run a hilly 1.65 miles and then spent the rest of the 3.1 total I intended to do doing a run/walk routine.  But something was better than nothing, right?

Friday I woke up early and did the P90x legs & back dvd with Jeremy.  I had also intended to attend a local Stroller Strides class.  It was at 9am in Patterson Park.  I had purchased a 5-class pass about 2 months ago with every intention of going during my maternity leave but toally dropped the ball.  I received an e-mail that my pass was going to expire mid-June so I knew I had to get on that.

Stroller Strides is a workout class/program for moms and their babies.  I thought it was a great way to squeeze in a workout while not having to worry about finding child care.  Plus I thought I could meet some other local moms.  I also assumed that the classes wouldn’t be that tough because it was for moms that had their children with them.

I met some nice local moms and it appeared many of them had been attending the classes for several weeks or a few months.  The instructor was fantastic and everyone was very welcoming.

So that crap about it not being that tough?  I was SO wrong.  I don’t know if it was the fact that my legs were still sore from Tuesday’s workout AND I had just done a legs/back workout the morning of the class, but I wanted to cry a few times during some of the jump squats and walking lunges.  The class was definitely tougher than I thought but I enjoyed working up a sweat.  What I also enjoyed?  The NO judgement over having a crying/fussy baby.

I get a lot of anxiety when I’m out with Annie and she’s fussy.  I don’t know why.  I sweat profusely and am convinced that everyone around me thinks I am a terrible mom.  But in this workout group – just about everyone’s baby had one or two little fussy moments.  None of the moms passed judgement and it felt great.  They were all understanding and I loved it.

So if you’re a mom looking to meet other moms and get a great workout – I suggest finding out if there is a local Stroller Strides in your area.  Unfortunely I won’t be able to attend any of the morning weekday classes but I hope to meet some working moms at the evening classes.

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Let the Crying Begin (Countdown to the end of my Maternity Leave)

I’ve joked quite a bit that I’d probably spend my last week of maternity leave in tears.  I’m not really a sensitive person so even though I joked about it – I really didn’t think I’d actually cry.  I mean, I didn’t cry when Annie got her 2 month immunizations (despite the doctor trying to “comfort” me – I just looked horrified because she screamed her head off while staring at me as though she was thinking, “WTF, MOM?!”).

But today, I cried.  Despite Annie poop-leaking (I’m now making up verbs) through 2 outfits today (while visiting a friend!  I can’t believe I had the foresight to pack 2 changes of clothes!) and spitting up / throwing up all over my sweater… I had a moment.

Sometimes, I hold Annie and sway/rock/dance to music on my iPod.  If I know the words, I’ll sing as well.  I enjoy these moments (although I’m not sure how much Annie really likes it).  We were having a good time rocking to some music but then Edward Sharpe and the Magnetic Zeros’ song “Home” came on and as I started to sing it… I cried.

And then I felt totally lame.

I need to watch more things like this to snap me out of this sappiness.

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You Had a Baby? (My Neighbors are Idiots)

2 weeks ago, one of my old neighbors (who thankfully moved but has been showing up around my ‘hood lately) commented that he didn’t even know I was pregnant.  I kind of brushed it off as him being a total stoner idiot (and I actually couldn’t remember when he moved away so his not knowing I was pregnant may have actually been valid).

But then one of my other neighbors (one that I see like once a week) made a similar comment.  I was carrying Annie out of the house in her car carrier and this neighbor asked how old she was.  I told her “12 weeks” and then she said, “I didn’t even know you were pregnant.”

Um, really?  This is me at the end of January:

a photo of what I wore

Did she think that I just gained a large amount of weight concentrated solely around my midsection?  Did she think I had a giant tumor?  Did she think that I was smuggling a basketball under my sweater every day out of the house?  I mean, REALLY?!

I should have answered, “Yeah – I didn’t know I was pregnant either until I went to the bathroom thinking I needed to shit and out came a baby.”

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