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The 2nd One Always Gets the Shaft

Guys – we are in the homestretch with this pregnancy. I’m technically “full term” right now. My how time flies.

And you know what? We haven’t done ANYTHING to set up for the new baby.

With knowing we’re having another girl and one so close in age to Annmarie, we didn’t feel it necessary to buy a bunch of new things. However, we’re realizing there are some basics we nearly forgot about… like diapers. Whoops.

The new baby’s room is currently filled with leftover furniture for which we had no landing spot yet. We also had to move some furniture in the room to accomodate the Christmas tree. But all of that needs to move!

I need to rewash and reorganize baby clothes!
I need to set up my diaper station (yes, AM is still in diapers but she isn’t exactly soiling diapers every 30 minutes like a newborn).

And now with the explosion of Christmas toys for Annmarie, we really need to reorganize toys (including getting rid of some stuff) to pull out any infant items that we can stash away for the new baby.

Am I panicked? Just a bit.

I’m having a bonus sonogram on Friday because my belly didn’t grow at all between visits. This seemed to concern my OB so she wants to verify that the fluid levels aren’t dropping. Some people think this sonogram will result in being admitted to the hospital. Ack!

We JUST agreed on a name (although I’m sure I’ll still go back and forth on some others).

I just remember being way more prepared when I was pregnant with Annmarie. This baby is really getting shafted here in terms of care and attention so far.

I still view Annmarie as “my baby” so it is still surreal to me that in less than a month, she’ll be considered the “big girl” and I’ll be walking around in zombie mom fashion with a newborn.

We took a bunch of video on Christmas of Annmarie and as I looked through the camera for previous videos, I realized we hadn’t filmed anything since the previous Christmas! It was crazy to see Annmarie as an infant. Because now she’s a Chatty Cathy that looks like this:
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When did this happen?

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Family & Maternity Pics – Leaving it to the Pros

While I do feel some guilt about not giving this pregnancy the same attention I gave the first one (a lot of that has to do with chasing around a toddler), I did vow to do a few things:

  • Take weekly belly photos (and maintain a “belly book”) – so far I haven’t done great with this.  I’ve tried though.  I have a book (but not the official “belly book”) that I’ve been adding photos to but I haven’t been on top of taking weekly photos.
  • Get professional maternity pictures – this pregnancy is also special and the fact that I haven’t been on top of the weekly belly pics just made me want to get pro pics all the more.

So I bring to you some of the pro pics courtesy of our amazingly talented friend, Maria Vicencio.  We’ve had a really mild winter so far so I didn’t think much of doing an outdoor shoot the weekend after Thanksgiving.  It only figures that this particular Sunday was like 32 degrees.

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The other crazy thing to me is that I feel like I look full term in these pictures (but I still had another 8 weeks to go… yowza).

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Chatty Cathy – Stuff Annmarie’s Been Saying Lately

Annmarie is quite the Chatty Cathy these days.  Half the time I have no idea what she’s saying.  Our daycare provider recently told us that she can speak Greek (the provider is Greek) and English.  They commented that she was “so smart” because they’d say something in Greek to her one day and she’d recall the word the next day.  I’m sure they tell all the parents their kids are smart but Jeremy and I really do think that AM is a damn genius.

Lately she’s been into saying and doing a few things:

      1. Cleaning.  She takes a baby wipe and starts wiping down surfaces in the house (coffee table, trash can, walls).  She declares that she’s “cleaning” although it sounds more like “kee-ying”.  It took me a bit to understand what she was trying to say.
      2. Sorry.  When she does something that warrants an apology, she has started to say “sorry”.  But she says it in a very “Gilly” from SNL kind of way (where you know she’s not actually sorry):

        Plus she pronounces it “sowwy”.
      3. Airplanes.  We now live pretty close to an airport.  It isn’t house shaking close or anything but we see quite a few planes during the day.  She loves to point to them and yell, “Pane!”  But now she says, “Hi, Pane!” or “Bye, Pane!” and waves.
      4. All Done/Gone.  Whenever she’s finished something (doing something, eating something), she’ll declare, “All done.”  This isn’t really new but now our commute consists of driving through a tunnel.  Every time we get through the tunnel, she yells, “All done!”
      5. I did it!  This is my new favorite.  She’s been lining up her toys in weird ways and when she’s done, she yells (with arms in the air), “I did it!”  I f’n love this kid.

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Pumpkin Patching

Do pumpkin patches even exist anymore?  Last year we went to a “pumpkin patch” and it was really just a farm that had some pumpkins on a table.  They offered some other kiddie activities but it wasn’t a patch like I envisioned (and perhaps my assumption stems from Charlie Brown).

This year I was determined to go to a better “patch”.  Lots of local parents recommended this particular farm so we decided to check it out this past Sunday.  And again, it was a farm with a TON of kiddie activities but their pumpkins were all in bins in a tent.  Really?  Where is a damn patch around here?

Here are some pics from the farm.  It was actually pretty cute and they definitely catered to entertaining small kids.  I’d go back but I still want to find an actual patch.

They had a mini maze and Annmarie LOVED it:
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You could sort of feed goats (but they were separated by 2 layers of fence. This was probably to protect the children AND the goats. Annmarie definitely wanted to get closer.
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There was a mini tractor pull thing. Jeremy rode in the cart with AM because he was sure she would just jump out of it (something she tends to do if she is “done” with something):
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There were little play areas that I likened to Thunderdome. Small children are rough with each other!:
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There was a slide (and it took several attempts to try to get Annmarie to realize that she couldn’t walk up the slide portion…):
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And of course the obligatory insert your head into these photo op things:
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Lastly – we tried to get her to pick some pumpkins. She went for ones she couldn’t lift at first:
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But then found one more her size…
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And I’ll end this pointless photo post with a rare photo of Annmarie actually participating and embracing the belly photo. This was taken on Monday. I am 28 weeks along…

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Thinking about Nursery / Toddler Room Decor

We haven’t officially moved yet but all of the work we contracted has been completed. I will post pictures at some point, I promise.

All the furniture (the existing furniture of my mom’s) has not been moved into place and without our stuff there, it is hard to figure out where things will land somewhat permanently. We’ve only really set the furniture in 1 room – the dining room.

But now it is time to think about the new baby’s room and what we’re going to do with Annmarie’s new room. We don’t have a ton of money to spend so the idea of completely overhauling Annmarie’s current stuff is out of the question. We also don’t have a ton of free time to peruse thrift stores and makeover existing furniture (as I so longingly see on home improvement type blogs). We also want to make the transition from our current home into the new home as smooth as possible. We felt keeping her familiar things would help with the transition.

Just as a refresher, this is Annmarie’s room:
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Nursery

These pictures were taken pre-birth of Annmarie so the room is a lot messier. We hung some additional pictures but the overall look of the room is the same.

We’re keeping Annmarie in a crib for now. She doesn’t try climbing out of it and she isn’t showing any other signs of wanting/needing a “big girl bed”. I also want to keep all of the artwork. However, there are some shelves that run along the perimeter of the room so the idea of recreating a “gallery” wall seems like it won’t work.
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(the room looks different now – new paint color and hardwood floors but you can see the style of shelf that runs along the room).

I thought we’d just move her artwork to be displayed on the shelves. The idea of putting stuffed animals or toys seems silly since they’d be so far out of reach for her.

We have a large bird/tree decal on her wall now and would like to install a similar type of decal. I’m not sure if I want to use the same one though.

I really like this one (but I don’t like the price especially since I can find the same bird/tree decal we use now for only $32):

And since the whole room is hardwood floors, we need to find an area rug. I saw this one on Rugs USA but the largest size is only 5’5″ x 7’9″:

We also need new blinds, curtain rods, etc. These things are adding up quickly.

As for the new baby’s room. We want to go gray and yellow. The walls have been painted a very light shade of gray. There is only 1 small window and it is located in the back of the house where there is a big tree. Basically this room feels very dark.

We want to get a white crib (I’m a big fan of white furniture in a nursery). I want to reuse my old dresser (partly because my mom is having difficulty letting it go) but want to paint it white. However, I’ve been reading through tutorials on painting furniture and it just seems like a pain in the ass.

I’d LOVE to get a yellow chevron rug but have only found non-soft versions online (or they are outrageously expensive). I also love this rug from Rugs USA:

Unfortunately, it is backordered until mid November and the site won’t even let me put in an order for it.

I’ve been eyeballing this yellow rug but don’t LOVE it.

But again, we’re trying not to break the bank here. We still need to buy an area rug for our new room and at some point, we need to update the kitchen.

I’m not sure if we’re going with a “theme” for the new baby’s room. I’ve seen elephants pop up when looking at gray and yellow rooms. But I don’t know. Around this time last year, I had a pretty clear vision of how I wanted Annmarie’s nursery to look. With new baby, I just have a vague idea and am also consumed with keeping costs down. Any suggestions? I’m looking for some cost-effective inspiration!

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Pregnancy Update (because apparently I’m terrible at updating people)

The other day I posted this picture on Instagram with the following caption:

“AM insists on eating frozen waffles. She takes a bite out of each one then places them on my belly.  My belly has become her food shelf. #pregnant”

I got a few comments asking me about the baby’s sex and that’s when I realized that I really dropped the ball with this news.  I guess in the age of social media and everyone oversharing on Facebook or Twitter, people expect this type of news asap! (me included, btw)  But after my dad died, I got really turned off by the idea of posting these types of things on Facebook.  Don’t get me wrong, I still love reading everybody else’s updates but I really didn’t want to read through comments from old acquaintances that I haven’t spoken to in years (and yet somehow accepted their “friend” request).

Also – I belong to a private group on Facebook with other women that are all roughly due around the same time.  I commiserate and share pregnancy updates with them (so I guess in my head I am already sharing updates through social media).

With all of that said… I’m going to provide some updates.  I remember my blog turning into a pregnancy blog when I was pregnant with Annmarie.  I don’t want to give off the impression that this pregnancy is any less special.  So here we go (feel free to close the browser now!).

Here is what I looked like as of Tuesday, October 9, 2012:

picture of me at 25 weeks pregnant

I am 26 weeks pregnant.  Please ignore how exhausted I look.  So much is happening with getting my mom’s house ready, prepping to move, etc.

I found out the sex of baby #2 in August and am sorry I did such a terrible job spreading this news.  We’re having another girl!  I knew it.  I was so positive we were having another girl that I didn’t even need the sonogram tech to tell me.  I am thrilled.  If you recall, I wasn’t so thrilled with the news that Annmarie was going to be a girl.  But now that I’ve been raising a little girl, I wouldn’t have it any other way.  And as a person that grew up without a sister, I really wanted Annmarie to have a sister (but I would’ve been just as happy with a boy!).

Sadly – we haven’t done much in terms of prepping for this baby.  It is tough when you’re focusing on moving and whatnot.  We haven’t even given much thought to names.  I remember agonizing over this with Annmarie.  I also remember starting her nursery 3 months before she was born!   Things are definitely different when you’re pregnant with your 2nd child.  I’m not as worried about things.  I know everything will work out.  I was even moving some furniture this past weekend!

This pregnancy still feels a bit harder physically than with Annmarie.  I can’t run anymore.  Running leaves me feeling terrible cramps and like everything will fall out of my vagina (sorry for the visual).  So I’m just using other cardio machines (bikes, ellipticals) but can only manage to do so about 3 times a week (vs working out 5-6 days a week with Annmarie).

My heartburn is still a little out of control but I’m better at keeping it at bay.  The secret?  Not gorging myself all in one sitting.  It is all about spacing out meals and eating them in smaller chunks.  I also crave way more sweets this time around.  Milkshakes and ice cream are my number 1 thing right now.

So there you have it.  I’m feeling pretty good.  I’m just tired and stressed but most of that doesn’t have to do with being pregnant.  I worry about what life will be like with 2 children and worry about how Annmarie will handle all of the big life changes that will hit her in such a short amount of time (moving and having a sister).  Annmarie loves babies right now and there are 2 new ones at her daycare.  I’m happy that she’s getting a lot of exposure to babies right now but am not sure how it’ll translate to her own sibling.

So there you have it!  What’s going on with you?

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Living with Mom

My mom has been staying with us over the past week while some renovations are being completed in her home.

In that time frame she has…

(1) Criticized me for not cooking dinner for Jeremy. Whaa?! I don’t recall having family dinners EVER. And I try to tell her again and again that I just don’t really cook because Jeremy does not like my cooking. It doesn’t offend me. Believe me, I’m not that great. Jeremy is the cook in the family.

(2) Told me my house is dirty. This is coming from a woman that I have found to be a borderline hoarder. However, she did clean up some crud in my fridge so that was nice.

(3) Strangely rearranged items. I’ve come home to see Annmarie’s blankets hanging strangely around her crib, towels in weird places and a water bottle that was on my bedroom dresser in the fridge. Does it weird me out that she’s going through my house? Sort of but at the same time, she lost the spare key so she’s essentially stuck in my home for 9+ hours a day. I’d probably do the same thing.

(4) Told me my hair isn’t shiny. This came up yesterday. She said, “I noticed your hair isn’t shiny anymore. It is because you don’t use enough conditioner.” Thanks, mom.

(5) Overheard my neighbors having sex. She’s been sleeping on a futon in our basement. It is butted up against the wall we share with our neighbor. I guess their bed is also butted up against that wall. She said she heard the “squeaking sound” of “you know what”. Hilarious. She asked if they were young. They’re not. And not that I picture lots of people doing the deed… but these are people you NEVER want to imagine doing the deed.

(6) Complained about my diet. She has told me that I am “so different” from how I was raised because I don’t eat meat. She thinks I eat weird things that aren’t her “style”.

(7) Taught Annmarie the word “candy” because she gives her a lollipop ALL THE TIME. Now Annmarie sees Grandma and asks, “Candy?” Fantastic. I see a future filled with cavities (like I had).

(8) Lost track of Annmarie IN THE HOUSE. Perhaps I am exaggerating here (and that she was still waking up from a nap) but we had asked if she was okay watching Annmarie Saturday morning so that we could quickly run some errands (all related to the renovations). She agreed. We said we’d be back around 11am so we could feed her and put her down for her nap. We got home at 11:10am. My mom was fast asleep on the sofa and Annmarie was nowhere in site. Upon being asked, “where is the baby?” she responded half-awake, “baby? what baby?” Want to talk about panic? Annmarie was napping in her crib but it was filled WITH EVERY GD TOY IN HER ROOM. She basically had nowhere to lay except on top of her toys. I still have no idea what happened there.

All in all, however, having my mom stay with us hasn’t been nearly as annoying and awful as I thought. Sure she annoys me but I thought I would have strangled her by now. Maybe living together won’t be as awful as I imagined? (fingers crossed)

And because I prefer posts with pictures, here are some recent photos of Annmarie:

This probably isn’t a good parenting thing but I let Annmarie play with some of our gadgets. I’d rather show her NOT to throw these things or how she can sort of use them in case she gets to it and I’m not around. She’s been really into the point and shoot camera lately. I was impressed when I caught her taking a photo of herself.
Taking a self-portrait

And then laughed out loud when I saw the result of her self portrait:
Result of AM's self-portrait

The other day she insisted on wearing her bike helmet to daycare. I actually tried to take it off of her head before she left and she flipped out. So off to daycare she went…
Safety First

She’s really into sitting in the utility sink in our basement. She saw us bathing the dogs in it and now thinks of it as a fun new spot in the house.
Hanging in the sink

She’s really into putting on our shoes. Strangely, she LOVES putting on my rain boots. Her legs are barely tall enough to fit but she loves it. I love it because it keeps her still for a minute.
Rain boots

AM grabbed this pillow at Ikea over the weekend and wouldn’t let it go. I tried to switch it out for a smaller and cheaper pillow. She wasn’t having it. It has become her new thing at the house.
New pillow

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I Appreciate Politeness but…

I totally understand that we’ve come to a point in society where people know it is generally frowned upon to ask a woman if she’s pregnant. You never want to assume and then realize that you are wrong (because not only do you feel like an ass, you’ve probably hurt a woman’s feelings).

However… there is a point where politeness just seems ridiculous. On Monday, I received a “Congratulations!” from someone. I hadn’t realized that I never spoke about my pregnancy to this person though I don’t see them much. She proceeded to say, “I thought maybe you were pregnant but wasn’t sure so I didn’t want to say. But when I saw you put on that support belt at the gym, I knew.” (btw – I am back to wearing a pregnancy support belt at the gym for when I run jog).

But seriously?  You “suspected” but didn’t want to say anything?  This is what I look like right now (excuse the terrible phone pic taken in the gym):

I am 23 weeks pregnant. I am beyond the halfway mark and with this being my second pregnancy, I started showing MUCH sooner.  I’ve looked like this for quite some time now.

So while I appreciate the politeness of not assuming… COME ON!

Incidentally, I ran into someone I hadn’t seen in awhile that didn’t know I was pregnant.  And she said, “Wow – you must be due very soon!”  Yeah… I have another 4 months.

It really is amazing how by not sharing this news on Facebook, I’m met with lots of “whoa!  I had no idea!”  How did people communicate this type of news in the olden days?  :-)

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The Cookie Monster

While I keep trying to stay positive about the move to my mom’s (an extra set of helping hands!), there are some things that I’m dreading.

She has turned my daughter into the cookie monster.

Granted, AM learned the word “cookie” from us (I’m assuming). But she knows that grandma will give her a cookie (or lollipop) if she asks for it. Unfortunately for us, AM can perfectly express that she wants a cookie now.

Btw – we totally let her have a cookie here and there. My mom? She will give AM as many cookies as she asks for (especially if we’re not in the room). It is hard to resist though because her saying “cookie” is (in my humble opinion) one of the cutest things in the world right now.

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Pregnancy #2 and the Guilt that Comes with It

I think it comes as no surprise that I feel guilty about stuff. I’m easily guilted into things and just feel guilty ALL OF THE TIME. I think my mom has done a real bang-up job on hammering the whole guilt thing into me (despite how mean people think I can be to her).

I’ve been feeling a lot of guilt lately around caring for my mom, not making more of my last few months wtih my dad (because, really, who knew he was going to die?) and now? Now I feel guilty about having another baby.

I want another child. I’ve wanted this since AM was a few months old. I wanted her to have a sibling somewhat close in age so that she’d always have someone to play with. She’d always have someone who can relate to her when she complains about her horribly embarrassing parents. And especially, she’d have someone to help her manage her ailing parents when we’re too old to care for ourselves (or when I inevitably get Alzheimer’s or cancer as I’m predicting will happen to me).

I found out I was pregnant in mid May. I spent the first 2 weeks in shock. I wanted it but I guess I just wasn’t anticipating that it would happen for a few more months. Then I went into a fury about MOVING. We had to move. We had no space in our house. So for a few weeks, I obsessed over real estate. And then, my dad died. And I sort of spiraled into this feeling of hopelessness. My dreams of moving to the ideal suburban area was crushed and I was now faced with caring for a 67 year old woman who was grieving.

And then just like that, I was nearly half way through this pregnancy.

Guys. I am nearly (and I’m talking just days away) from being officially halfway through my pregnancy.

I feel guilty that I should be making more out of the time we have left as a family of 3. We should be soaking up every moment of having just 1 child (and her experiencing the joys of being an only child).

I feel guilty that when the new baby arrives, AM will not longer have my undivided attention. My attention is now divided and will always be going forward.

I feel guilty that I may miss some wonderful things AM says and does because my attention is now spread.

Did we rush this? Should we have waited until she was a little older?

Sometimes I look at AM and I get a little teary-eyed. She is my baby. Even when she’s throwing an epic temper tantrum (like she did last week at the mall complete with flailing around on the ground), I still look at her as my one and only. How will this dynamic change with another child?

So yeah. Lots of mom guilt going on right now.

And even worse? I still can’t devote making the most out of having just 1 child. Our free time now is devoted to helping my mom, cleaning out her house, etc. We’re always so busy now. And my heart breaks a little more each time I realize that this time is moving at warp speed.

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(not to get all artsy fartsy but I thought the blurriness of this photo perfectly captured how I feel about AM’s rapid growth.)

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Every night before I go to bed, I go into AM’s room and look at her sweet sleeping face. I usually put my hand on her chest or back to feel her heartbeat. I realize that this sounds absolutely insane, but I can’t help myself. Those are the minutes I take to soak in my only child. With all of this guilt mounting, I find myself getting choked up when I do this crazy routine. Will this change when I’m balancing 2 kids?

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And the other guilt I feel is the guilt over the fact that I feel guilty! Gah! I can’t win. I feel guilty about feeling guilty about pregnancy #2 when there are people I know struggling to conceive AT ALL and here I am with another wee one on the way. Or friends who would love to expand their family but specific circumstances prevent them from doing so right now.

How do some people go through life without feeling guilty over everything?

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