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Farewell (to our daycare) Friday

Today is the last day with our daycare provider.  I’m a bit sad about it.  Jeremy is relieved.

I worry that Annmarie’s transition to a new place is going to be tough.  She obviously loves our current lady (we’ll call her Sarah).  She smiles everytime she sees her.  And sarah clearly loves Annmarie.  Apparently she gives off the kidnapper vibe to Jeremy.

We switched providers because Sarah moved.  We commuted back and forth for a bit but it was a NIGHTMARE with traffic.  Then, in a strange turn of events, Sarah left her husband and moved out of the house.  She dropped the other family she was providing daycare for and offered to come to our home for the remainder of the month (partly out of obligation and partly because she loves Annmarie).

She’s been operating as a nanny of sorts and it has been great.  I feel a little bad because she’s only charging us her daycare rates (and nannies make MUCH MUCH more).  She was supposed to pick up a new family in mid-October and was going to offer them the same temporary nanny deal.  Then the family pitched doing a nanny share (but they weren’t willing to pay typical nanny rates).  She had asked if we’d consider hiring her but we cannot afford what she should be paid.  But oy – do I feel bad.

Because her personal life is sort of falling apart, Jeremy really just wants to switch to a more “stable” daycare. 

I worry for Sarah because she is now unemployed, going through a divorce and essentially homeless (she’s temporarily staying with her grandmother).  Most people think it strange that I’m so concerned for her – but I think it has to do with the fact that she’s asian.

Is this crazy?  I talked this over with one of my half-asian friends and she agreed that she tends to favor/sympathize with asians more so than with any other race. 

UGH – I think when she leaves the house today, there will be tears.  And I will feel terrible (like I’ve somehow abandoned one of my people). 

But on a happier note, check out Annmarie.  She’s a frickin’ genius!  Only (nearly) 8 months old and can already use an iPad…

Okay not really.  We downloaded some kiddie fish app that has fish floating around on the screen and if you touch them, it tells you what color the fish is then switches to a new fish.  Annmarie just likes trying to “grab” the fish.  So maybe she’s not a genius since she doesn’t realize she can’t physically grab the fish?  Or perhaps that makes her a mega-genius?


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Ch-ch-changes (I hate Changes)

I have to break-up with my daycare provider and I am completely heartbroken and sick about it.  I knew that this day would eventually come but I guess I wasn’t ready to face it.  I actually get a little weepy when I talk about it.

Some of you may recall when I tweeted in a total panic about my daycare provider moving out of Baltimore?

She had told us that she and her husband bought a house in a suburban neighborhood located about 20 minutes south of Baltimore City (and it is actually in the same city as my parents).  They were planning on putting their home in the city but she said she would continue running daycare out of that home until it sold.  She even said she’d make arrangements to meet the parents at a pick-up/drop-off location after the house sold where she would take the children back to her new home.

We agreed mostly because we were kind of stuck.  I was coming back from maternity leave in less than a month and we really needed childcare! 

She’s been watching Annie for about a month now and I absolutely LOVE her.  She is one of the sweetest women I’ve encountered and she clearly loves Annie (and Annie clearly loves her).  She sends me picture and text message updates like these…

But I knew that she would stop running the daycare out of her Baltimore home.  Last week she called and said she would like to start running daycare out of her new home because the commute back and forth was taking its toll on her (and considering how little she makes, I completely understand).

She offered to meet at a halfway point between her new home and the city but that would require us leaving the city only to re-enter the city for work.  For anyone familiar with the traffic patterns in the Baltimore-Metropolitan area, you know that this isn’t ideal. 

The other family said that it was too far for them so they’re going to find other arrangements.  And because of this – I think she wants to be more accommodating for us.  She has offered to meet Jeremy in the city for drop-off if I was willing to drive to the suburbs for pick-up. 

I am really considering it because I just love her so much but at the same time – I know that I will tire of that commute as well.  I mean – I work less than 5 miles from my home!  I have it pretty good.  Do I want to deal with rush hour traffic again (I used to work 25 miles from my home and hated it).

Ugh – but I love her and this breaks my heart!  Jeremy just pitched the idea of seeing if she’d be willing to “nanny” at our house (we’d obviously pay her more) and potentially see if we can do a nanny share with someone but I don’t think she’d go for it.  I believe that she really wants to stay home but it is worth a shot.

In other changes news – my stupid f’n auto insurance, MetLife, sent me a letter the other day.  The letter was titled, “Notice of premium increase greater than 15%”.  With 2 accidents now on my plan, I wasn’t surprised.  But I almost choked when I read that they were jacking up my insurance 47%!  Even worse?  That rate hike was based on my November accident alone!  Yowza!

I started shopping around for other insurance plans and realized that we had it pretty good with MetLife (barring that we didn’t hit stuff with our cars).  Their rates were the lowest (thanks to a group discount through our employer) and their rental coverage was pretty good.  And now that I’m a “high risk” driver (one of the insurance companies deemed me as “uninsurable” after I submitted my information online for a quote) – I’m pretty sure we’re screwed.

So on top of now paying more for insurance, we’ll be paying more for childcare.  There is a HUGE difference between what our current provider charges and what others are charging (nearly $100 difference a WEEK).  Being an adult sucks sometimes.


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Back to the Grind

** Yarg!  WordPress ate most of this post so I had to reblog it… but I’m tired so this is a much shorter version than what I originally wrote.  Sorry! **

Today was my first day back at work.  While I was a bit weepy all morning – I didn’t bawl my eyes out like I thought I would.  I will say, however, that I got to work 45 minutes later than I intended.  Having a baby and getting everything prepped is extremely time consuming.

And while it felt weird to be back at work – it also almost felt like I wasn’t gone for 3 months.  The office still felt the same.

I surrounded myself with pictures of Annmarie.  I soaked in all of the compliments from co-workers telling me that I didn’t even look like I had a baby (I worked hard to get back to my prepregnancy size so I will happily accept these compliments!).  But the best part of the day was the receiving several text message updates from my daycare provider.

I received this one around 9am:

“She is so good, just fell asleep.  She was a little bit fussy and I had to change her diaper and give her a bottle.”

Then around 11am:

“Just woke up 1/2 hour ago… now just chill’n” followed by, “She is very good and didn’t cry when she woke up.”

Lastly around 1:15pm:

“She cried for the last 10 minutes and now she is asleep.”

As lame as this may be – these texts and pictures got me through the day.  I was happy that Annie seemed to be doing just fine.  I chuckled at the pictures (I love that she has the same sleeping pose and obviously had to change outfits at least once).

I’m just hoping that the guilt I feel will go away soon.


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